It might not be the obvious relationship strengthener, but watching my partner have sex with his ex-girlfriend on video has actually brought me closer to him. Yep, you read that correctly. I was never directly involved in any of these fantasies. But good lord, was I turned on. It seemed like such a crazy extreme: How could my biggest real-life insecurity also be my biggest fantasy turn-on? I decided to have an open, honest conversation with my partner about all of this. Bold, I know. He was into it! Not only that, it was a secret fantasy of his, as well.
Why the idea freaked me out
Why I liked the idea
June 1, pm Updated June 1, pm. Not for so-called Stags, though. These guys get their rocks off watching their wife or girlfriend having sex with other dudes. The Stag either joins in or watches as a voyeur. However you could be mistaken for thinking that as the definition of a cuckold is a man who enjoys the act of his wife being pleasured by another male. The Bull, the wife or both dominate the encounter and the cuckold gets his sexual thrill from the masochistic shame and humiliation.
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W e met in , fell instantly in love, and married 14 months later. At first we had a rule: we touch nobody and nobody touches us; we just watch and are watched. That night, we met an attractive guy, 20 years our junior, who just wanted to chat, at first. Later that evening, I was with my wife in the Jacuzzi when he came and sat beside us. Sometimes I am with my wife during these sessions, holding her hand or kissing her, but mostly I just watch. Occasionally, I even stay outside the room, drinking or chatting with others. The first few times, I had mixed emotions, but now I find it extremely exciting. Swinging is like watching a porn film, only live. Our relationship is better for these events; we are closer than before, and I love seeing her receive such pleasure. It is certainly not for everybody, but it works for us.
But for some men, the act of watching their wife effectively cheating is actually something they enjoy. Apparently, "cuckolding" - which is watching your partner have sex with someone else - is increasing in popularity. The fetish mainly applies to married couples who enjoy watching their spouse engage in sexual activity.